You don’t have to be the perfect mom. Give yourself some grace, Mama!
Motherhood is hard. And, yes, sometimes I don’t feel cut out for it.
But, mamas, I think we might actually make it harder than it is by setting our expectations for ourselves too high.
In the Internet Age in which we live, we are surrounded by more tips, tricks, hacks, and parenting advice than ever.
(I say usually because I don’t. See proof here.)
There is enough mothering advice in the blogosphere to fill up libraries of information.
Some of this comes from young women who are still in the trenches with little ones, and readers are left scratching their heads and thinking: What am I doing wrong?
It’s no wonder so many of us feel like we just can’t measure up.
Mama, I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to be the perfect mom.
Because, guess what? No one is.
I’m not the perfect mom
In June, I’ll mark off seven years of motherhood.
Sure, I’ve learned some great things along the way:
I can make homemade baby food.
I can potty train. Scratch that one. I hate potty training. I won’t even start with my youngest until after she turns three.
But when it comes to most parenting skills, I’m right there with many of you:
My girls’ bedtime is 8:00 p.m. But many nights, they aren’t asleep until 9.
I occasionally feed my kids processed foods (usually from the gluten-free section at ALDI!).
Sometimes, I get frustrated and yell.
When I look around and see mom bloggers who are in my same life season who “know all of the answers,” I often wonder what is the messy truth, and what is the polished truth.
In what seems to be a sea of perfect mothers, I’m here to tell you: I’m still learning. I don’t know it all.
I’m right there with you, Mama.
You’re not alone.
Learning from Seasoned Mamas
In various seasons of my life, I’ve often prayed that I wouldn’t forget my struggles and challenges, so that I could later encourage and mentor those there once I have moved on.
I pray for that now.
This season will not come again, and even as I’ve moved on from the baby years, and my preschool and young elementary school-aged children try my patience and leave me begging for answers, I ask the Lord to give me empathy for that brand new mama who is crying out for help as she nurses a newborn in the dark, figures out nap schedules, and stumbles over the proper way to install a carseat (I never learned how, by the way. My hubby does that!).
Sometimes, it seems that seasoned mamas are sparse.
I have often asked where are the veteran moms who hold so much wisdom that younger mamas are so longing to hear?
Thankfully, a few years ago, I found it in my mentor, Holly. She is 13 years older than I am. When her youngest son graduates from high school in a few weeks, she will be a brand new empty nester.
But she hasn’t forgotten what it’s like to have little ones underfoot.
She has poured into me and taught me that it’s OK not to be the perfect mom. As long as I am learning, growing, and seeking to love God first, my husband second, and then my children, I am being the mom the Lords wants me to be.
Positive Parenting Solutions
Over the course of our friendship, Holly has often recommended the parenting teachings of Amy McCready of Positive Parenting Solutions.
Like Holly, Amy no longer has little ones. She has moved onto the next season of parenting.
But Amy hasn’t forgotten.
Amy calls herself a “recovering yeller.” Now the mother of two teenage sons, she is a parenting expert and the author of If I Have to Tell You One More Time…The Revolutionary Program That Gets Your Kids to Listen Without Nagging, Reminding or Yelling.
I am over-the-moon excited that Amy has agreed to offer a FREE webinar for Humbled Homemaker readers next Wednesday night from 9-10 p.m. EST! The webinar is called Get Kids to Listen Without Nagging, Reminding or Yelling.
You can register for this FREE webinar here. There will be a recording for those who registered but are unable to attend the webinar live. But you MUST RSVP to claim your spot!
Here’s a description of the webinar:
Tired of the yelling? Tired of the whining? Tired of being tired?
You’re not alone. From toddler temper-tantrums to teenage talking back, parents wonder what it takes to get kids to cooperate. If you’re tired of nagging, reminding and yelling to get kids to listen – this session is for you!
I am excited to partner with Amy McCready, founder of Positive Parenting Solutions & TODAY Show contributor to offer a FREE LIVE training webinar on Wednesday, May 20 at 9:00 p.m. EDT.
Discover proven tools for your most frustrating discipline dilemmas including the 5 R’s of Fair & Effective Consequences.
This hour-long investment will lead to a lifetime of peace in your home! RSVP here!
No, Mama, I don’t have the all the answers, but I delight in being able to learn together, alongside of you–to be able to point us both in the direction of mamas who have been there, done that and have made it to the other side of motherhood.
I hope you will join me in learning from Amy in her FREE webinar next Wednesday night!
Don’t forget to reserve your spot by registering here now!
Do you ever feel like you have to be the perfect mom? Where do you get parenting advice? Or, are you a mama in the next season of motherhood? How do you seek to help younger moms?
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