This post first appeared as one of my columns in the Mooresville Weekly newspaper.
Yesterday, I shared with you five of the 10 things I said I’d never do as a mom that I now do. I sometimes chuckle when I hear a single or married-without-children friend say that they will never do this or that with their future kids, because really, we never know what we will or will not do until we are in a given situation.
Here are five more things I do now that I said I would never do when I became a mother (that I now do):
1. I said I would never feed my kids hot dogs.
I actually gave up hot dogs when I was about 5 years old. I’ve never been a big meat eater, and once I knew where hot dogs came from, I never allowed one to grace my lunch plate again.
However, my girls love them. And, let’s face it: Hot dogs are easy to prepare. I only serve my children the “healthy” uncured, nitrite-free hotdogs, but they are still hot dogs nonetheless.
And shock of all shockers: I’ve actually started eating them myself! The other day as I was biting into a turkey hotdog, my mom said to my sister over the phone: “Would you have ever guessed your sister would start eating hot dogs one day?”
I think the last time–up until about 6 months ago–that I had eaten one was when I had been babysitting for a family when I was 11 years old. I felt rude saying no, so I gagged down one bite and said I wasn’t hungry and wanted to “save the rest for later” in my purse.
2. I said I wouldn’t let my children watch TV.
This is another one that makes me chuckle. I still admonish others – and myself – to limit the use of the tube, but with three pregnancies in three years, I simply succumbed to letting my girls watch kids’ shows.
I now think I have just about every “Dora the Explorer” episode memorized. Sometimes I forget that TV shows exist for adults. When the kids are in bed, my husband and I often find ourselves watching “Curious George.” Hey, he taught us all about composting and recycling!
I actually looked at my husband one day and said: “Why didn’t we ever watch these shows before we had kids?” He thought I was a little crazy with that one!
3. I said I would never send my kids to preschool.
To be honest, I didn’t think we could afford preschool, and I also didn’t want any of my children away from me any earlier than they had to. But last spring, my husband suggested that our oldest might benefit from some preschool before starting kindergarten.
We found a wonderful school at a church just down the street, and God provided for us to send her there. Our daughter loves her teacher and new friends, and she’s learning a lot. It was a great decision to send her!
4. I said I would never yell at my children.
How could I ever lose my temper with my sweet babies? I would be the mother who always spoke gently and kindly and never let them frustrate me.
I know not one mother who has never lost her cool with her children. Do I make a habit out of it? No. Is it wrong? Yes. But have I ever yelled at my children? Regretfully, I have.
5. I said I would never want to work.
I grew up with a stay-at-home mom, and I knew from a young age that if I ever married and had children that I would want to stay at home. It is still my goal, and I have been blessed with ways to be able to work from home, making me primarily a stay-at-home mom.
But something I never expected to experience was the actual desire to want to take in some work from home. Even if we could afford for me to never bring in a dime, I think I would still want to write.