Today’s birth story is from contributing writer Mary, of The Encouraging Home. Be sure to pay her site a visit! You can go back and read my first birth story here, about Jodi’s unplanned, unassisted homebirth here, or about Sara’s near C-section here. Come link up your own story on Friday!
By Mary of The Encouraging Home, Contributing Writer
I am a natural loving mama. But I did not have natural childbirths with my two sons. It was a decision that my husband and I made after much prayer and consideration of my health problems.
We were told in the first year of our marriage that we would never have children due to endometriosis and other health problems I have. Those words pierce you like a knife, especially when all you ever wanted to do was be a wife and mommy. Surgery to scrape away the endometriosis was scheduled after a year.
A week before the surgery, we found out we were expecting. God is good! We were so excited and thankful, but the pregnancy soon became a roller coaster of emotions. I did not have lupus, but experienced the symptoms, and the lupus count skyrocketed during the pregnancy.
The doctor told us we would miscarry. We made it through that time and were told that my body was attacking our baby. He was not growing. I was prepared to deliver him at 28 weeks because it was believed he would be safer away from my body.
It is horrible to think that you are attacking your own baby that you are supposed to be protecting.
We made it past that point and were told to expect stillbirth. I had a wonderful, Christian doctor and felt safe with him. The decision was made to induce at almost 39 weeks. A neonatal team was in the room ready to move into action.
I was induced at 8:30 that morning and by 11 a.m. the Pitocin (horrid stuff) did its thing. I went from a 2 to a 9 almost instantly, but my water would not break, so the doctor broke it. I had an epidural placed earlier.
I was allowed to eat and had good nurses…just a whole lot of them. The thought that they were there to save my baby’s life was scary and comforting. It was time to push at 2:00. The epidural had not taken, so they kept pumping it in. Then I couldn’t feel anything from the chest down.
Flat on my back, legs in stirrups, doing something I had never done before, with the mindset that our baby would probably be stillborn, along with a team of people in our room, does not add up to a pleasant experience.
I pushed for 2 1/2 hours. I could not feel anything and had to go by what the nurse told me. My husband was a constant support and a jewel. Our baby’s heart rate was dropping fast and the doctor told me I had 2 more pushes and or he was getting him out. HOW??
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Complete episiotomy and vacuum extraction brought us our 7 lb. 1 oz. baby boy at 4:22 p.m. The team moved into action, because he was unable to breathe on his own. We were desperately praying that our son would survive. I was unable to hold him for an hour, because of his complications, but he was fine ~ such a gift from God!!
It was a very difficult experience, because I don’t think I wanted him to be born. We were told he would be stillborn and I wanted to keep him alive in me as long as I could. He was our miracle baby, the one we were not supposed to have and the one who was not supposed to live.
We were thankful for our wonderful doctor who was with us all the way. The labor and delivery was difficult and the lupus symptoms wreaked havoc on my body. I was literally bruised from head to toe, so I was able to stay in the hospital a few days longer.
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We were told if we ever wanted more children, not to wait. When our oldest was 14 months old, we were delighted to learn that we were expecting again. The pregnancy went fairly smoothly and the lupus symptoms were not an issue with this pregnancy.
Things were going fine until 28 weeks when I went into hard preterm labor. By 30 weeks, I was dilated to 2 cm. I was not put on bedrest, because when that is when the contractions went full force. Five trips to the hospital to ensure I was not dilating more, 5 shots to stop the labor and finally started on medicine at home to stop the labor at 31 weeks until 36 weeks.
I hated the medicine, but it was the lesser of the two evils. The medicine made my heart race and my body quiver. Plus, I had a 22 month old toddler running around. I was exhausted.
At 38 weeks, the contractions didn’t stop. We went to the hospital and were in a room at 7:00 a.m. I was 5 cm. I had a walking epidural this time. I was able to walk around and to feel the contractions, especially on the right side where it didn’t take. The doctor broke my water and at 10:45; I was at 10 cm and ready to go.
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It was a vastly different experience than the first. We only had the doctor and the nurse in the room. I was more in charge, had a birth plan and was able to walk around and sit up during this delivery. Our second son was born at 11 a.m. weighing 5 lbs. 11 oz. Such an easy delivery compared to the first one.
Our son was tiny, but had no complications. I was able to hold him immediately and tore very little. We were blessed with two little miracles.
This was what worked best for us in our situation. Even at a hospital birth, it is possible to have your wishes met. Have a birth plan; discuss it with your doctor. Know beforehand what you want and do not want. Pray for good nurses and a good doctor on call. We were blessed to go to church with our doctor and he allowed us to call him at home and came even if he was on call. That was a comfort and a blessing.
Our two sons were miracles and we are very thankful. If the Lord ever blesses us with more, we will re-evaluate our situation at that point.
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Mary is a farm girl, wife, and homeschooling mom to 2 sons. She is passionate about her faith, family, homeschooling, healthy living and tries to find balance in it all, as well as farm life. She blogs at The Encouraging Home where she tries to encourage others in life and to stay focused on the Lord and the things that truly matter, even through stress, chaos, and trials. It is her desire that women will rise up and take back the challenge of raising their children for the Lord, so we can change future generations and our nation.
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