For over 5 1/2 years now, I’ve been either pregnant or breastfeeding babies back-to-back.
Sometimes I wake up and think: “Wow! How did I go from a working wife to a stay-at-home mom of three–three!–children under five years old?”
It’s been a whirlwind–to say the least.
I started this site two years ago with intentions of chronicling my journey to becoming a better mom.
But I failed–miserably.
Oh, I’ve accomplished a lot of what I set out to do, but the biggest take-away I’ve had in this two-year venture is that there is no set formula to “perfect” motherhood. And propositioning yourself to attain such lofty goals just sets you up for disappointment.
Really? I’m just a humbled homemaker. Plain and simple.
So my new motto has become to take things one day at a time–and to give myself grace.
Grace when I lock my keys in the car.
Grace when I succumb to electronic Christmas cards instead of taking hours to address and stamp and mail the real things.
Grace when I forget my little girl’s preschool parent-teacher conference because I’d been up most of the night before.
Grace when I swing through the Chick-fil-A drive-through for lunch and order a pizza for dinner instead of cooking from scratch 100 percent of the time.
Grace when I diaper my babies in disposables instead of cloth because the laundry pile is already a mile high with clothes and linens, and I just don’t need more laundry this week.
Grace when the dirty dishes in the sink have been sitting there for two days.
Grace when I have to call off a playdate or a meeting because my home and family need me more.
Grace given to my kids when they whine and cry and “wake up on the wrong side of the bed”….because they’ve probably seen those same behaviors in their mommy.
I’m ditching the mommy guilt and embracing the mommy grace.
And maybe, just maybe, by focusing on grace, I’ll learn to be a better mother after all.
What are some ways you ditch mommy guilt and embrace mommy grace?
I originally wrote this for a January 2013 edition of the Mooresville Weekly newspaper.