If you’ve hung around the blogosphere for very long, you may have noticed a trend toward choosing one word to define your goals for the year–instead of making a long list of resolutions.
My one word for 2014 is “Boundaries.”
When I told this to a friend last week, she commented that “boundaries” was the most interesting “one word” she had heard. And truly–I guess it is different than many of the other “one word” themes I have read about others choosing this year:
So why did I choose “Boundaries”?
Quite simply: I need them. Desperately.
I’ve been a people pleaser for my entire life. I give a lot of myself, which results in me not taking care of myself.
I struggle with saying “no” to others, which ultimately translates into more “no’s” for my family because when I constantly say “yes” to everyone and everything else that vies for attention, there ends up being little left for those in my life who matter the most.
At first, I wanted my one word to be “margin.” And how ironic that while in the middle of drafting this post I receive this post from Kat Lee in my inbox–about how her one word for 2014 is “margin”!
But then I realized…I cannot focus on carving out margin in my life until I have set some boundaries in place. So I backed up, and “boundaries” it is.
This year, I’m drawing a line in the sand. I’m building parameters.
Instead of saying “yes” to not offend or hurt someone’s feelings, I will say “yes” to only those things that I get really excited about–those things that I know God has called me to.
My “yeses” will be “OH YESES.” And when I say “no,” I will mean it as well.
I need boundaries for my health and the health of my family. I need it for my sanity, and I ultimately need it for you–because if I continue to say “yes’ to every single opportunity that comes my way then I will have nothing left to give you either.
I’ve seen far too many bloggers burn out. Writing, connecting with readers, building community…it’s all a passion of mine. I don’t want to give this up–if I don’t have to.
I was discussing this with my friend Beth, of Red and Honey, the other day. She said: “(Quitting is) just the temptation to run away from the problem instead of facing it and disciplining myself. I think I need to learn self-discipline and the art of saying NO. Quitting would be the coward’s route.”
In a recent podcast by Michael Hyatt, he commented: “If you’re not careful, the urgent will take precedence over the important.”
A lightbulb clicked when I heard that. And when I look back at my 2013, it was lots of “urgent” and the “important” got pushed aside.
I don’t want that for 2014. I know there will be a learning curve, but setting some boundaries will be the very first step.
What is your “one word” for 2014? Do boundaries come easily to you, or do you have to really work at it?
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