Back in December, I declared 2018 to be my year of healing.
I’ve been giving myself a word for the year since 2015, and I’ve found it a fruitful and focused way to intentionally navigate each year.
Designating a word for each year helps shape what I read and how I spend my time.
In 2015, my word was boundaries.
I faced boundary challenges in relationships like never before that year. Sadly, I didn’t even read the book Boundaries until January of this year, as boundaries are still something I struggle with to this day.
In 2016, my word was discipline.
This word manifested mostly in me being more disciplined with my eating habits and exercise, as I intentionally focused on eating the Trim Healthy Mama way during the first half of the year–and incorporating gentle exercise through Fit2B into my daily routine. I also focused on getting a good amount of sleep each night.
The result of this discipline is that I felt better than ever, got pregnant (even when we had been told it was no longer possible), and I was somehow, miraculously disciplined enough to write the manuscript for my first book during that year.
In 2017, my word was savor.
This word came to me at the end of 2016, after we had begun preparing our home for our new baby boy. When I looked over at the bassinet just waiting to be filled, the word “savor” immediately popped into my head. I knew that the Lord wanted me to savor my son’s first year.
We knew that, most likely, he would be our last child. Our family went through many struggles during our daughters’ newborn days, and I wanted to really savor this last time of having a baby.
And savor I did. I got less work done than any other year in 2017 (I mean–writing a second book and launching the first book definitely kept me busy, but I stopped running on the hamster wheel of blogging so much), but I can say with 100% certainty that I savored the year.
It wasn’t without resistance, though. We spent the first half of the year going from doctor’s appointment to doctor’s appointment and therapy appointment to therapy appointment as both Baby Boy and I had injuries from the childbirth.
But when things became frantic, I was able to stop, breathe, pray, and savor all of God’s blessings around me–our new son, our 3 daughters, our home, and God’s provision for all of our needs.
Back to my 2018 word: Healing.
When I look back at 2017, I accomplished savoring to a T, but the year was also extremely stressful. Most of those stressful events and circumstances were outside of my control, but late in the year I realized that I was starting to feel burnt out again–perhaps even sinking back into adrenal fatigue.
I needed to re-focus on taking care of myself.
Busy wives, moms, and homemakers are notorious for neglecting themselves, and I’m no different.
When it comes to self-care and healing, it can feel like we’re up against an uphill battle. At least I know that’s how it’s felt for me in the past–and especially here lately.
For 2018, I’m seeking healing in a variety of areas of my life:
Healing in my Marriage: As I recount in my memoir, More Than Just Making It , my husband and I have been through intense marriage crisis in the past. At the time, we had very little money to pour into counseling. When our financial situation turned around, we made the excuse that we were “too busy” for counseling.
We now know that we will never not be “busy” in some way. If we want to find healing in our marriage, we have to make time to do the work. So in late 2017, we began marriage counseling.
Healing in my Physical Health: Without going into too many details, I’ve had some symptoms of hormonal imbalances since our son was born. I also have a strong family history of diabetes and cancer (my father and sister have diabetes and my mom had ovarian cancer).
I don’t feel like these are things I can ignore, so I’ve been taking steps to be very proactive in both healing and prevention. I’m seeing both my general practitioner who is a holistically-minded MD as well as a naturopath. When I feel like something is off, I don’t hesitate to seek out advice.
(And please do not take offense to this, but do not take this information as your sign to email me about a supplement you are taking that has “changed your life.” I am working with highly-educated professional healthcare providers who have done testing and know my entire history and have made a customized wellness plan for me.)
I also see emotional and spiritual healing as a HUGE part of the physical healing. I don’t think we can separate them from each other! With that said, the aforementioned counseling will also helping with healing in these areas–as will specific books I am reading.
Healing for my Business: Ok, so this one might sound strange. How do you find healing in your…business? And what is my business?
My business is this blog, and in the midst of my savoring of 2017, I cut way back in this space. Really, I spent time writing my books. But I also cut out contributing writers and did the bare minimum to keep the blog afloat while I focused on my son’s first year, part-time homeschooling my older children, running my home, and writing my books.
I’ve witnessed a sea of bloggers who began their sites around the same time or shortly before I did begin quitting or selling their blogs. I don’t want to do that. So I’m currently working with a business coach to learn how I can bring “healing” to The Humbled Homemaker–ways in which I can truly encourage you and point you to grace-filled, overwhelmed-less living in your own life–without neglecting my family or burning myself out.
If you’re looking for healing of any sort of 2018, I’m excited for you join us here in this space. Since 2011, my heart for this blog has been to encourage women to live a grace-filled life. No guilt, no shame.
Just come as you are, and we can learn together to overcome overwhelm and cultivate a grace-filled, natural life.
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