Over the past year, I’ve been learning some things that have made me a better mom. I’m excited to share those “secrets” with you today!
I’m a better mom today than I was a year ago.
Did I really just say that? And I run a blog called The Humbled Homemaker?
Yes, I did!
I didn’t say I was the best mom on the planet or better than any other mom. But I do think I am a better mom to my kids today than I was a year ago.
If I weren’t a better mom (and wife and homemaker, for that matter) now than I was when I started this blog, then you might as well stop reading it.
Because even though I started this site with the admission that I was incredibly humbled and imperfect (and still am!), if I don’t grow any, I should not be encouraging you to grow either.
None of us should ever stay the same.
While each year does come with some growth, the past year in particular has been a game changer. No longer am I the overwhelmed, stressed-out wife, mom, and homemaker that I was before.
There are some secrets I’ve learned over the past year that have been lightbulb moments. I hope they’ll be helpful to you as well.
4 Secrets to Becoming a Better Mom
1. Spend time away from your kids.
I might be stepping on some toes with this one, but never having time away from your kids can be the recipe for a grumpy, tired, frazzled mama.
I know this because I lived this.
During some seasons, this might mean just a few minutes alone with God each morning or night. Or it could mean you spend one Saturday each month at a coffee shop while your husband watches the kids.
But as your children get older, I encourage you to set aside any available finances to get away on your own for a night or even full weekend.
I have been doing this for the past few years, and it has been just what I needed to go from barely surviving to thriving as a homemaker and mother. This past weekend, I went away on a women’s retreat with the ladies from my church family. It was oh.so.fun!
2. Get organized–in your way.
By nature, I’m not an organized person.
It was only a few years into motherhood that I realized I absolutely had to form some semblance of organization in my home, or I would drown in school papers, bills, and junk mail–not to mention baskets and bins of hand-me-down clothing!
For years, though, I tried to get organized with the suggestions from others who were nothing like me.
When it finally dawned on me that I needed to get organized for my unique personality, the tide began to turn.
While some moms do best with printable checklists and schedules, I do best with a simple notebook.
While some prefer the exact same routines day-in and day-out, I like to vary my days, which works out wonderfully with our family’s choice to part-time homeschool.
Get organized, yes, but make sure you’re not trying to copy someone else’s system who is nothing like you.
3. Sleep more.
After living in a sleep-deprived state for years on end and finally (finally!!) getting decent sleep for the past few months, I’ve come to believe that adequate rest might just be the number one catalyst in bettering ourselves as moms. (It also is the best guarantee of being productive each day!)
Although I thought I was serving my family well when I spent countless all-nighters working (so I could spend daytime with my girls), I cringe when I look back to the grumpy mama I was when I was suffering from too little sleep.
Learn how much sleep you need: For me, it’s no fewer than eight hours each night.
4. Start with God’s Word.
I notice a marked difference in how I mother when I am spending regular, consistent time in Bible study and prayer and when I am not.
Even with a lack of sleep and organization, I will better display the fruit of the Spirit toward my children after spending time in God’s Word.
His Word not only encourages us, but it also equips us for the calling of motherhood and homemaking.
When we feel we are not cut out for it, His Word proves otherwise!